Five lessons to make us think about the way we treat
people.

1. First Important Lesson - Cleaning Lady. During my
second month of college, our professor gave us a pop
quiz. I was a conscientious student and had breezed
through the questions, until I read the last one:
“What is the first name of the woman who cleans the
school?” Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen
the cleaning woman several times. She was tall,
dark-haired and in her 50s, but how would I know her
name? I handed in my paper, leaving the last question
blank. Just before class ended, one student asked if
the last question would count toward our quiz grade.
“Absolutely,” said the professor. “In your careers,
you will meet many people. All are significant. They
deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is
smile and say “hello”. I’ve never forgotten that
lesson. I also learned her name was Dorothy.

2. Second Important Lesson - Pickup in the Rain One
night, at 11:30 p.m., an older African American woman
was standing on the side of an Alabama highway trying
to endure a lashing rainstorm. Her car had broken
down and she desperately needed a ride. Soaking wet,
she decided to flag down the next car. A young white
man stopped to help her, generally unheard of in those
conflict-filled 1960s. The man took her to safety,
helped her get assistance and put her into a taxi cab.
She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his
address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a
knock came on the man’s door. To his surprise, a giant

console color TV was delivered to his home. A special
note was attached. & it read: “Thank you so much for
assisting me on the highway the other night. The rain
drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits.
Then you came along. Because of you, I was able to
make it to my dying husband’s bedside just before he
passed away. God bless you for helping me and
unselfishly serving others,” Sincerely, Mrs. Nat King
Cole.

3. Third Important Lesson - Always remember those who
serve. In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much
less, a 10 year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop
and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in
front of him. “How much is an ice cream sundae?” he
asked. “Fifty cents,” replied the waitress. The little
boy pulled his hand outfox his pocket and studied the
coins in it. “Well, how much is a plain dish of ice
cream?” he inquired. By now more people were waiting
for a table and the waitress was growing impatient.
Thirty-five cents,” she brusquely replied. The little
boy again counted his coins. “I’ll have the plain ice
cream,” he said. The waitress brought the ice cream,
put the bill on the table and walked away. The boy
finished the ice cream, ! Paid the cashier and left.
When the waitress came back, she began to cry as she
wiped down the table. There, placed neatly beside the
empty dish, were two nickels and five pennies. You
see, he couldn’t have the sundae, because he had to
have enough left to leave her a tip.

4. Fourth Important Lesson - The Obstacles in Our
Path. In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on
a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if
anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the king’s
wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply
walked around it. Many loudly blamed the King for not
keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about
getting the stone out of the way. Then a peasant came
along carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching
the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and
tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After
much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded.
After the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he
noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder
had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a
note from the King indicating that the gold was for
the person who removed the boulder from the roadway.
The peasant learned what many of us never understand!
Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our
condition.

5. Fifth Important Lesson - Giving When it Counts.
Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a
hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz who
was suffering from a rare & serious disease. Her only
chance of recovery appeared to be a blood transfusion
from her 5-year-old brother, who had miraculously
survived the same disease and had developed the
antibodies needed to combat the illness. The doctor
explained the situation to her little brother, and
asked the little boy if he would be willing to give
his blood to his sister. I saw him hesitate for only a
moment before taking a deep breath and s aying , “Yes
I’ll do it if it will save her.” As the transfusion
progressed, he lay in bed next to his sister and
smiled, as we all did, seeing the color returning to
her cheeks. Then his face grew pale and his smile
faded. He looked up at the doctor and asked with a
trembling voice, Will I start to die right away?”.
Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the
doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his
sister all of his blood in order to save her. 

NO POINTING FINGERS

A man asked his father-in-law, “Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?” The father-in-law answered in a smile, “Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you.” We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.

CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?

 A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested “I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one.” The SDU officer said, “Your requirements, please.” “Oh, good looking, polite,  humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don’t go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest.” The officer listened carefully and replied, “I understand you need television.” There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband ,because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.

NO OVERPOWERING

Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another,or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that “It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person’s character.”

It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness. It would be less  painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations. . 

RIGHT SPEECH

There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that “A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation.” Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.

A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,”Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school.” On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, “Luckily you married me.Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker.” She answered ,”You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you.” Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It’s like a broken egg - cannot be reversed. 

PERSONAL PERCEPTION

 Different people have different perception. One man’s meat could be another man’s poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home,a boy commented, “Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey?”Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, “The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?” Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.

Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, “How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman.” The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, “Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you.” Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders. It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and  struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future. Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear.. 

BE PATIENT

This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy’s hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.

Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy’s hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, ” Daddy,I’m sorry about your truck.” Then he asked, “but when are my fingers going to grow back?” The father went home & committed suicide. Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can’t. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.

People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever. 
 

Few days ago I thought of some beautiful yet informative topics that I’m going to post in my site today. Fortunately, with God’s guidance I came across a nice planner from one of the corporations here in the Philippines and abroad. So, without wasting so much of my time, I want to share some of a Filipino Values which I am pretty  sure every one if not all have missed.

PATIENCE/TIYAGA

When it comes to patience, nobody beats the Filipinos. We are a very patient race as a whole. This virtue of patience gives the Filipino a positive spark of hope. The Filipino adage, ” KUNG MAY TIYAGA, MAY NILAGA” is a timeless proverb which summarizes this characteristic. Filipinos are very patient in terms of life, love, family and work. 

TRADITIONAL COURTSHIP/PANLILIGAW

Traditional Courtship is still very much well and alive in the Philippines for it is in this event that a culture secures its continuity. Clans are united. Ties are created, where previously there were none. And through the observance of traditional courtship, the individuals find a bond, not only to each other, but to generations past… Ancestors who have lived and loved and forged relationships in the same manner. Filipino men go as far as serenading (panghaharana) the women by singing in front of an open window where the desired lady is required to show herself and listen. Families must meet prior to marriage to discuss issues and even exchange gifts with each other as some sort of pre-nuptial ritual (pamamanhikan). Even if the modern filipina is a global achiever, there is no denying that presenting flowers, chocolates, and even the occasional crooning still work.

SMOOTH INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP/PAKIKISAMA

Smooth interpersonal relationship is primarily guided by conformity with the majority. It can be roughly translated as comradeship or being cooperative. It has many manifestations in Philippine society, one of which is extending support or offering help to neighbors who are in need. “Pakikisama” reflects the “bayanihan” spirit, which involves cooperation among fellow men to come up with a certain idea or accomplish a certain task. While bayanihan refers to a community-support deed, “pakikisama” has a more individualized sense. This applies to families, the workplace, in school, even in public places. The Filipinos are known worldwide for their incomparable hospitality, which stems from the Filipino’s desire to make “pakikisama”. Next to family, filipinos value friendship. And there is a natural tendency for a filipino to be friendly with anyone who comes along his or her way. A filipino would always feel good to be there for a friend in good and bad times. A close friend is considered as an extension of the family and every opportunity to seal this affinity would be exerted on significant events like baptism, weddings, and similar occasions. 

SIMPLICITY/PAYAK NA PAMUMUHAY

Filipinos are very simple in nature. Even with the advent of malls, electronic devices and other forms of sophisticated entertainment, filipinos are easily delighted over the simple things in life. Though TV and Radio still provide most of the entertainment, homegrown board games like “sungka”, or street games like “patintero” and “piko” continue to be very popular past times.

CLOSE FAMILY TIES/PAGPAPAHALAGA SA PAMILYA

Filipinos have extremely close-knit family groups and a large extended family network. Filipino Families are usually solid support systems, standing together through one economic crisis to the next. Family members usually know each other’s secrets and borrow one another’s things. In our society, the problem of one becomes the problem of the whole family and even of the relatives. For us, our families are the fuel for our dreams. We want to catch the stars for those we love. Family members would always find a way to look after the welfare, well-being and future of family members at whatever cost or form of sacrifice. To a filipino, blood is always thicker than water.

RESOURCEFULNESS/MAPAMARAAN

When it seems we’ve reached the end of the road, we still find a way. We filipinos maximize what we have. Our self-reliance enables us to come up with solutions on our own. We are capable of adjusting to every given situation. We can be in any territory, any situation or condition, or any person or group of people with a totally different orientation. Yet, we would always find ourselves fitting in notwithstanding language or cultural barriers. The showcase of the filipino’s ingenuity has placed us on the world map with inventions like the karaoke, the moon buggy, the fluorescent light, the water-powered car and the yoyo among many others. Despite these big achievements, we filipinos display resourcefulness even in the simplest of means.  

DILIGENCE/SIPAG

The average filipino office worker spends up to eight hours a day in the work place. Most filipinos are breadwinners for their families, thus explaining the more than the usual extra effort they have to exert just to ensure a financially stable future for their children. Indeed, this display of dedication and patience to get the work done right has earned the filipino worldwide respect.

POSITIVE THINKING DURING HARD TIMES/KASIYAHAN SA PAGGAWA

Filipinos are considered as the “happiest people in Asia”, because they don’t need much to be much. Despite the many challenges, filipinos still find ways to amuse themselves. They would always line up to catch a good movie, or spend time in the company of friends or family members over meals or a cup of coffee or a round of drinks, organize parties and reunions, or simply be glued to their favorite music or television program. People wonder why shopping malls, bars and food houses thrive and are always filled with people; It is simply because filipinos know how to have fun. Filipinos love to deliver and exchange jokes even over a serious public concern. It is not that Filipinos do not treat problems seriously. It is simply because filipinos love a vibrant life. They are not afraid of laughing at themselves, their mistakes, and even the trials they experience in their lives. It is positive thinking that saw the filipino through adversity and intense economic trials.

LOVE FOR NATURE/PAGPAPAHALAGA SA KALIKASAN

The Philippines, in general, is a tropical paradise. Just a few hours away from Manila is a vast selection of Pristine beaches and three-layered virgin rainforests and wildlife adventures which are considered top-notch in the world. These are easily accessible via a long drive or a journey via bus. Long weekends usually mean a trip to the beach with friends or trekking on a nearby mountain. Boracay, an island off the coast of Panay, is a world-famous beach not just because of the white sands but because of the wonderful snorkeling/scuba-diving experience it promises. The Tubbataha Reef Marine Park in Palawan, covering some 33.2 hectares of Pristine Coral Reef with a high density of marine species, is now a UNESCO World Heritage Site. The Philippines’ scenic natural resources are one of the filipino’s most prized possessions.

CARE/PAG-AARUGA

The Filipinos are universally known as good caretakers, maybe it’s because of their love for children or for the love of taking care of others. There is still a high demand for filipino nurses and medical doctors to work abroad because of their genuine love and concern even to strangers. It is the Filipino spirit that makes them so endearing not just to fellow locals but to foreigners as well.

MYTHOLOGY/MGA PANINIWALA

Philippine Mythology and Folklore include a collection of tales about magical creatures and entities. Some filipinos, even though heavily westernized and christianized, still believe in such entities. Because the country has many islands and is inhabited by different ethnic groups. Philippine Mythology and Superstitions are very diverse. However, one that remains famous throughout the country is the legend of Maria Makiling,  A Diwata (Goddess) associated with Mount Makiling in Laguna, Philippines. She is believed to be the guardian of the mountain. Responsible for protecting its bounty. There are many who claim to have “seen” her: Hikers, students, locals and foreigners alike. They all share similar stories of a beautiful woman in white with long, cascading black hair.  

STRONG FAITH/MATATAG NA PANANAMPALATAYA

As of 2000, the Philippines reportedly had 72, 225 million Christians, comprising 84 percent of its total population. The Philippines is the only Christian archipelago in the Pacific covering East Asia. Because of this strong faith, Filipinos have assigned official patron saints for almost everything, from conception of babies (Santa Clara) to relief of toothache (Santa Apollonia). 68% of the entire population still attend weekly church services. Christmas is one of the major Roman Catholic Holy Days and one of the major highlights of the occasion is the nine-day novena or simbang gabi, when catholic churches across the nation start to open their doors shortly before the break of dawn to welcome those faithful to the tradition. The novena begins on December 16 as early as 4 in the morning and culminates with the “Misa De Gallo” on Christmas eve to welcome the birth of Jesus Christ.

I Thank You Lord. . .

for all the blessings you gave me in the year 2007,  for the sunny days and for the sad, cloudy days for the peaceful afternoons and the long, dark nights.

Thank you for health and sickness, for the sorrows and joys I had in 2007. Thank you for all the things you lent me and then took back again.

Thank You, Lord, for the friendly smiles and helping hands, for the love I received and all wonderful things, for the flowers and stars, for children and loving souls.

Thank You for the loneliness, for work, for difficulties and problems, for uncertainties and tears because all these brought me closer to You.

Thank You for preserving my life, for supplying shelter, food and all my needs.

WHAT AWAITS ME THIS YEAR?

Whatever you wish, My Lord… I ask only that you grant me faith to see you in everything that comes my way, Hope and Courage to not give up, and Love . . . more love for you each day and for those around me.

Give me Patience, Humility, Yieldness and a Giving Heart. Give me, Lord, what you know is good for me and that which I know not how to ask.

Grant me an obedient heart and listening ear, an alert mind and active hands so that I may yield to your desire and submit to your perfect will for my life.

Pour out Your blessings over all my loved-ones and loving peace to the Hearts of men. Amen.

Blessings come in the most unexpected packages. Through the years, I’ve come across a number of supposedly fabulous people who try to put on fulfilled, happy faces, but deep down you could somehow sense that something is amiss in their dull, miserable lives.

In contrast, I had the opportunity to count my blessings and considered myself as one lucky girl. No, I haven’t won the lottery. It just feels that way every time I wake up in the morning.

At the beginning of the year, I declared 2007 as my year for adventure, as the year I would leave my comfort zone and try to live my life more fully. I’ve done just that—and I am grateful…

1. For my family, who is the ultimate indicator of my happiness. You may be living alone but the thought of seeing your family sooner or later is what keeps you going through the years. I am thankful for the good health of family members and loved-ones.

2. A good relationship with my husband Aaron and all the members of our families.

3. My husband Aaron’s career. It is doing very good so far we just can’t help waiting for his promotion to Commodore (Brig. General).

4. My job at PWU (Phil. Women’s University) Taft, after all the many sleepless nights at the call center.

5. Our Sunday ritual as family. We saw to it that we will be spending our Sundays with God, for us to have a more meaningful day-to-day existence.

6. My Peace Corner which encourages me to at least share my life and passions, my way of meeting new friends in the world of blogosphere, Maline and Grace, especially.

7. At the top of my list is the unconditional love from the happy boys and girl in my life, which allows me to take life’s sacrifices and difficulties.

8. And of course, nothing beats the hugs and kisses I get every morning which make me want to count my blessings everyday, over and over again.

Today is the death anniversary of my grandfather. It’s been 23 years since he died because of old age. I can’t help but to reminisce my good old days with him. I was 2 years old then when my mom gave birth to my little sister but unfortunately, both didn’t make it. The reason why I grew up with my grandparents. My mom used to leave messages to them when she was still alive that when something will happen to her she will completely entrust me to my grandparents at my father side.

There are around 50 grandchildren in my grandparents clan, quite big but full of joys and excitements specially during our grand reunion. Everybody are successful with their chosen careers and I may say it’s in our genes, we are properly nurtured by our parents who are always emphasizing to us the importance of education.

We have lawyers, doctors, nurses, dentist, merchants but mostly are educators, which is very common in most provinces. It might be the humblest course but for us it is a noble and fulfilling profession.

I called grandpa “papa” but the rest of my cousins called him “lolo Naro” from his real name Genaro. We have chinese blood because his middle name is Tan, but don’t get me wrong we are not rich our tribe is not that well-off but through the hard works of our grandparents we were able to acquire a portion of lands which all of us are still enjoying right now as our source of income. Ours might not be the best clan but certainly it is not the worst. Our grandparents and parents are surely proud of us.

No matter how people and history judge of what we are today, the influence of my grandfather will continue to run in our veins.

Each individual have different character and personality. Is there a difference between these two words? Aren’t they similar of each other?

“Personality” refers to a person’s qualities and characteristics. “Character,” is more about disposition to action. This is according to Michael Tan a professor of UP Diliman. In other words, it is character that is responsible when we seem to think a person is “weak” if he or she is indecisive, easily gives in to peer pressure.

But where does a person’s character come from? Do genes really have a hand in our behavior, and ultimately, our character? According to Josh San Pedro on his research to the DNA Files, “it is not a single gene directly affecting our characteristics, but an interplay of all our genes.”

However, several findings by geneticists reveal that our genes do not create for us a “predestination” before we are born, but a “predisposition.” For example, and introverted person is not born an introvert, but his genetic tendency is simply triggered and developed by the society he grows up around.

This leads us to the other contributor to our character, which is “nurture,” as opposed to “nature” (genes). In our society today, the family is where every person is initially molded. We begin to pick up mannerisms, humor, opinions, and most importantly ethics in our homes. Add the outside world such as going to school, where we gather vast amounts of knowledge and information.

Life itself teaches us more things in the form of experience. And experience, the aforementioned trigger of our genes, helps us in our disposition to action — our character. These make us who we are.

One man tells this story:

When I was about 4 years old, my father often asked me to point at some numbers on the calendar. And frequently, there was much rejoicing sometime later. “You won! You won!” I would hear members of the family told me. I didn’t know what it was, but I often saw them counting money during such occasions.

When I grew a little older, 5 or 6 years old, my mother used to take me to the carnival, and she would ask me to give one number. She would then give some money to someone and get a piece of paper containing the number I said. Then dices were rolled and small wooden figures of horses were moved forward. I was told then that the game was called “jumping horse.”

When one of the wooden horses reached the end of a board, somebody would get some prizes, like plates, glasses, and other kitchen utensils. Again and again, my mother would shout nervously but with joy waving her winning ticket. We usually brought home one or two big boxes containing the prizes we won. These were repeated again in other carnivals in other towns, especially during town fiestas.

A father said in his letter that his son had been asking him for a bicycle. But, he couldn’t afford it then. “Never mind, just wait and you will have a motor bike instead,” he told his son. He prayed and two weeks later, he won a motor bike in a raffle.

But, blessings aren’t only in winning games like that. Other blessings in life come through honest efforts and divine grace. And I believe that the secret of receiving blessings is contained in the Holy Bible which says:

“Blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord, and whose hope the Lord is.” (Jeremiah 17:7)

“The young lions do lack and suffer hunger; but they that seek the Lord shall not want any good thing.” (Psalm 34:10)

“And whatsoever he does shall prosper.” (Psalm 1:3)

Why? As the Holy Bible says,

“For all things work for good to them that love God and are called according to His purpose.”  (Romans 8:28)

You can be one of the most blessed persons on earth through prayer. God wants to bless you. He doesn’t want to hold back anything that will benefit you. He cares for you! And He wants to show how much He loves you.

One man prayed and, in spite of his poverty, he claimed the riches of God for himself and others. Things began to happen. He became so wealthy he even bought two private planes!

Here’s how you can pray and receive blessings in your life:

1. Affirm this prayer several times a day, especially before you sleep at night and when you wake up in the morning.

“Each day God is prospering me in all my ways and in all areas of my life. And every other man is blessed and prospered in divine order. Miracles, now follow miracles, and God’s blessings now appear and come to me ceaselessly and without end. I expect only the best and only the best come to me under grace. I thank God that this is so in Jesus Christ’s name.”

2. Imagine God’s blessings raining into your life, more that you can hold and contain. And imagine yourself sharing them with your loved ones, friends, and other needy persons.

Today is the first Sunday of Advent. It reminds us to look around us and see with our hearts the poverty and suffering of the people, and to ask ourselves if we are contributors to, if not perpetuators of, the sad situation because of our sins. Advent thus strongly reminds us of our mission to share, to let go, and to let God.

I just heard mass this morning and the Gospel reminds us that the coming of the Lord is something that will come as a surprise, something that is totally beyond our control. The Son of Man will come at a time we do not know, at an hour we do not expect. So we might as well be prepared all the time let us clean our hearts by making a good confession. Yes, let us go back to our hearts, and there find God. Let us surrender everything to God in prayer. For who of us know for certain that we will wake up again in the morning?

If by chance we are still given the opportunity to breath on the next day, let us thank God that we are still alive, and offer to Him in prayer whatever mission and undertakings lie ahead. It is prayer that keeps us focused on God, and reminds us of our mortality, our mission in life, our dependence on God and our final destination.

As we go along with our day to day existence let us be aware of the words we are spoken, let us be careful of our actions and our thoughts, for this might be lead us to do a lot of explaining when our hour finally and suddenly comes.

I may sound too godly, but, I’m not! I just want to share with you with what I have experienced with God. As I go along with life’s afflictions, life’s burdens, as well as life’s joys it is very fulfilling if you will allow God to be the center of your life, by doing so you wouldn’t go wrong.

It starts within ourselves, our parents teach us loving ways to show respect, and in return we do the same, this is the least that we can do to show our gratefulness for their love and care. Parents may also bend down to show an equality of respect for children. These that equality of honor each other may reign within the family.

But a culture of rudeness has become a feature of modern society. Being a polite and courteous person makes one a rare individual in today’s world. Politeness, and a genuine concern for the rights and feelings of others in our society seems to have slammed the door in our faces.

The reason why I urge myself to feature this thing we called “respect” because of what I have experienced last night with my housemaid, I won’t trouble you with the details, except for one thing amidst of her chores she was like doing it in an angry manner that made my dishes broke into pieces. Out of professionalism and understanding I prefer to calm down myself. Apparently, I didn’t like the gestures she have shown to me, to my husband and to my kids. It’s very appalling to know that you have somebody in your household who shows so much disrespect.

I chose not to aggravate the situation because it will just cause too much efforts and pressures I’ll just thought that the reason why she acted that way maybe because something’s bothering with her I just can’t help but feel disappointed and sad that her parents were not be able to nurtured her properly.

During our younger years we learned to do things by watching the older people in our family. Having positive roles will teach us positive ways to live. Politeness and common courtesy are more likely to achieve success, in business and in life, than a selfish, bullying attitude. Whether in our personal relationships with others, or in our workplace, being polite and well-mannered pays off in many ways.